Monday, 02 March 2009

• Slut shaming, hooray!

  Comment on an entry from the Datingish site, re: "Coming to terms with my Girlfriend's Past"
  
  "As a man, I completely understand how you feel. In fact, I used to be just like you. What I have came to realize is that the present is worth more than what happened in the past. It will still bug me a little, naturally, but I am always able to reason it down. I think it is just part of growing up.

  To tell you the truth, she is a very "clean" girl already for her age. Very, very clean. Don't let the past bug you with the present, seriously. Although the number is probably slightly higher than "2" because females tend to decrease that number when it reaches the tongue... she is still very, very clean.

  AND THIS IS FOR ALL THE FEMALES impatiently saying things like "GET OVER IT," seriously just... have some patience. It is slightly immature, but it is the NATURE of men and it is what EVERY man goes through. He feels this way naturally because of LOVE, nothing more. You tell me it doesn't bother your man? Of course it tingles something in the back of his head and heart, but he just doesn't let you know, dummy. He's mature now because he's gone through what this guy is going through. Probably fucked up once or twice because of this too.

  Don't even get me started with the immaturity displayed by you women all the time. If you respect your future long-term husband at all, for god's sake stop opening your holes so wide. Saying things like "how many women have YOU been with?" is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Just because everyone else is doing it makes it okay? What kind of justification is that? The ones being defensive and saying things like "GET OVER IT" and "it's HER past, not yours" fucking bug the hell out of me. Men are supposed to be patient, while women can run their fucking mouths around? Hypocrites. Have some integrity and Grow Up."

  I especially love the juxtaposition of "long-term" and "husband".  It's right up there with "starter marriage."  How about the juxtaposition of "respect" and "stop opening your holes so wide." I'm glad you've grown up with maturity and class, dude, to refer to women as gaping holes to be filled by manly men.  That is definitely a sign of respect. 
  

  Mostly what chaps my hide about this is the use of the term clean.  Ugh.  About five years ago, pretty much every sexual health site cut out the use of the term clean (I know we were correcting it on Scarleteen AGES ago) because of the shaming involved with the term.  Even contracting an STD doesn't make one 'unclean.'  Bust out the fucking bells folks, because at least 50% of people out there have either oral or genital herpes (sometimes from something as innocuous as sharing sippy cups in first grade.)  One didn't scored clean on an STI test, they scored 'clear.'

  But now the term has graduated to mean a woman who has had a man-approved limit on previous sex partners. Hold on, Billy; that ain't on.  Sorry to say, but short of sharing for health purposes (see STI discussion above), her past existed in a pre-you vacuum. 
  

  I just continue to be saddened and ashamed by the crap that is allowed to fly on Xanga.  I rarely blog here anymore, and being assaulted with woman-shaming BS on a regular basis is just... hrryuynegh.
  

  
  

  
  

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